I think this is going to be more of a rant than anything. LOL Sorry in advance.
My husband and I have been trying to be more strict with our kids, because the way we have been handling them surly isn’t working. I’m not meaning strict as in beating them or anything, but more like giving them consequences for their actions.
Our oldest had a soccer game tonight after school so we ate dinner at my parents house since the soccer field and the school my daughter goes to is only 5 minutes at most from my parents house. Well anyways we were there eating dinner and our 5 year old son who will be starting Kindergarten in the fall didn’t want to eat his dinner. He has always been a VERY picky eater, to the point of if we are having something that he doesn’t like or something that he’s never ate or tried before he wont eat. We’ve even done the whole “either you eat your dinner, or you go to your room with no toys or tv” or ” you sit there at the dinner table until you eat” Nothing has helped.
Well tonight at my parent’s house, he decided that he wasn’t going to eat his dinner. So I told him “either you sit there and eat your dinner or when we get to the park for Destiney’s game, you don’t get to go and play on the playground before or after the soccer game. And don’t even ask because the answer is no” And he didn’t eat. We got to the park and he asked to go play. And I stuck to my guns with “you didn’t eat your dinner so your not going to play.” He did his usual whining and left it go. Then my mother in law and sister in law and her kids showed up at the soccer game. And of course he thought he was going to go run off with her kids to the playground. I went and brought both of my kids back to the soccer field from the playground. For one he was told that if he didn’t eat his dinner then he wasn’t playing on the playground. And for two in my opinion a 5 year old and a 2 year old have no reason to be on a playground without a parent. And my sister in law’s 3 kids are only 8 and the twin girls are 6. So really to me I don’t think they should be alone on the playground either but they aren’t my kids so I wont go there. But anyways, I made my two kids come back up to the soccer field to watch their older sister play her soccer game. That’s what we were there for anyways.
So my kids stayed with me at the soccer field. They played behind my chair until the game was over. Then my mother in law, knowing (because I told him at least 5-10 times during the game and I know that she heard me) that I told my son that he wasn’t going to the playground to play because he didn’t eat his dinner, just took both of my kids to the playground with my sister in laws kids. She didn’t ask if she could or even tell me that she was doing it. I turned around and they were all down at the playground.
So really, what did this teach my son? That whenever she’s around, he doesn’t have to listen to me. My mother in law only lives about 20-25 minutes away from us and only see’s our kids on holidays. She knows that I am a sahm/wahm and she has off work 3 days a week but she never calls to see if she can come see them or calls to see if she can take them for the day. But my kids think the world of this lady. She does stuff with my husband’s sisters kids all the time, but never seems to have time to spend with our kids.But yet she tells everyone that it’s our fault that she never see’s our kids. And then when she is around them, nothing I say goes.
I’m sorry for the rant. I just had to get it out of my system. If anyone has any suggestions please comment below. I’d even like to hear your MIL stories, or even your opinion.